I Wanna Be a Slut

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I wanna be a slut.

There, I said it. I want to be able to have sex with anyone I want, anywhere I want, without strings, without consequences. I want to do it in public places. I want to flash people from my car or in the supermarket. I want to masturbate in a restaurant, across from my lover, my hand up under my skirt while he watches.

I want this man.

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And this woman.

Separately and together, thank you very much.

Yeah, I wanna be a slut.

But I’m not.

The truth is, I’m a very happily married woman. I have kids–who definitely don’t need to know any of the above! And there are real life consequences to “slutty” behavior. If the Baumgartners had really been having that much sex, at least one of them would likely have a venereal disease. And think of all the chafing! Herpes is forever. AIDS kills. Pregnancy happens–even when you do everything you can to prevent it. Those are sexual realities. They’re quite sobering and often put a damper on the fun of being a slut.

So what do you do, when you want to be a slut, but you have a husband you love, a relationship you’re committed to, a lifestyle that just doesn’t lend itself to all those slutty fantasies you imagine?

You write about them of course.

At least, that’s what I do. As an erotica writer, I get to explore all those slutty fantasies–the gangbangs, the multiple partners, the public sex, things that just might get me arrested or divorced–or both–if I decided to actually do them.

And you, my readers, get to explore them with me. It’s sort of like we’re having sex, even though we’re really not.

Which is a fun fantasy in and of itself!

In the end, that’s what erotica is for, right? It’s about letting your imagination roam free, to go where it will. If you’re a sci-fi/fantasy writer, your imagination might take flight with dragons and spaceships (or dragons who drive spaceships) and if you’re a mystery/thriller or horror writer, your imagination might lead you down dark paths where serial killers or deadly viruses that turn people in zombies lurk (or maybe zombie serial killers with deadly viruses who knows?) If you’re an erotica writer, your imagination often takes you to a place where nipple clamps and hot wax and anal sex are on the menu. It’s like a sexual all-you-can-eat buffet–you can have a little bit of this, a little bit of that. Try it, you might like it!

I’ve had readers say things like, “I never thought I’d like X, but after reading this book, WOW, I’m hooked!”

And the great thing about being a slut in erotica is you don’t get arrested. There’s no punishment for fantasy. All fantasy is good. I can fantasize about a co-ed having sex with her older professor–and no one gets hurt. I can fantasize about a woman getting raped and gangbanged by five men–and no one gets hurt. I can fantasize about a stepdaughter seducing her stepfather–and no one gets hurt.

Of course, if any of the above actually happened, a lot of people could get hurt. Or arrested. Or both. And no one wants that!

That’s what so amazing about erotica. It lets us all be sluts without having to literalize our fantasies. I get to live vicariously through my imagination and my characters–and you get to live them through me, when I share them with you.

It’s like a great big orgy of fantasy where we all get to have what we want.

What’s not to love about that?

Selena Kitt
Erotic Fiction You Won’t Forget
www.selenakitt.com
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9 comments to I Wanna Be a Slut

  • morgan havard  says:

    i’ve enjoyed your writing since first coming across it on literotica.com, quite a few years ago now. erotic fantasy is whatever you want it to be and in its written form there is something for everyone if we care to look. its a world where only the bad guys have small dicks and the good guys have amazing stamina and recovery without the need for viagra and the women are beautiful with amazing breasts and arses and are always willing ;-)…… and why shouldnt it be like that… its fantasy! something maybe amazon should have realised!
    carry on being a slut on your keyboard selena i for one love it :-)

    morgan x

  • Gerald Moore  says:

    Yeah, that’s what I’d like to be, except for the fact that real life has all the problems associated with that. That’s why I write erotica, I can get out my inner yearnings, in a safe, and fun (it’s FUN to write!) way. As you so well point out, we get to live vicariously though our imagination and our characters. It’s been a very libertaing experience. Excellent post, Selena!!

  • thedarkk13  says:

    My sentiments exactly.

  • E L Jasmine  says:

    I agree with you 100%. Let’s be sluts together, by writing erotica. But in real life I can never be one.
    1. Because I don’t have the guts to be that God damn bold.
    2. Having kids is not on the menu for me. And probably never will be. But that could change with time.
    3. With all kinds of new sexually transmitted disease that the expert keep on discovering, is it any wonder that people have not getting AIDS just by staring into another person’s eyes. The horror!
    The series that I am working on right now and hopefully publish soon will be about stepdaughters seducing their stepfathers. Or the other way around. I am so excited about these stories. I just hope that the readers will like them just as much as I do. Sluts Forever.

  • Jack Hunter  says:

    If women want to be fantasy sluts or sluts in the real world (hopefully ethical sluts), then who am I as man to do anything other than support and enjoy them as they enjoy their minds and their bodies in any way they choose…Atfer all its what I do!

  • Richard Collins  says:

    My wife wants to know why I write erotica. I’ve never been able to fashion a satisfactory answer. “I get to live vicariously through my imagination and my characters” is a well-turned phrase. I’m going to adopt it as my stock answer.

  • Censorship (Again) in Erotica  says:

    […] is fantasy we’re talking about here. If you don’t understand how that works, go read Selena Kitt‘s great blog post on the matter. It’s only short. I’ll […]

  • Larry Archer  says:

    Fabulous post and I see that your words have rang many bells including my own. I mirror a lot of your thoughts and being able to escape via fantasy is also one of the reasons I write. I love the way your build your characters and keep on being an inspiration to all us struggling writers.

    Larry

  • Bruce  says:

    I am a crippled husband that would like my wife to become a slut and start fucking other men. I think it would improve her mood and get her a better outlook about herself, Right now she just about cries everyday.

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